The Confidence Conundrum

So recently a few people have said i’m a good egg and need to be more confident when comes to dating.

Problem is that i’ve always lacked confidence, not sure why. Just have!

So how to overcome lack of confidence. Firstly i know by ljosing weight i will feel better in myself and also be able to buy nicer better fitting clothes. Which has always helped me in the past to feel more confident. Like many people i suffer with body insecurity, so this is more the mental challenge to overcome.

I’m not deluded to think i’m not fat, no matter how many people say you carry it well or you don’t look that weight. I’m a good 5 stone heavier than i want to be and if you listen to BMI (which i don’t as personally don’t take enough into consideration) i should be a maximum of 12 stone 12lb i would need to lose 9stone to reach that and honestly i think i would look ill.

Anyway, weight can be lost through diet and exercise but how do you change confidence and mindset?

The all knowing internet say

“Building confidence involves setting goals, acknowledging achievements, and practicing self-compassion. Challenge negative thoughts, focus on your strengths, and step out of your comfort zone gradually. Remember, confidence grows with experience and positive self-talk.”

Yeah great, there are many areas i have grown and feel confident such as writing these blogs and not worrying what others think. This is a massive win. Yet in dating the fear of rejection stops me trying.

Why does this have such power? I don’t know. So for now, i will keep pushing forward getting stronger and won’t be defeated. I’ve come so far in the last year so i won’t stop now.